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When we fail in motherhood

When we fail in motherhood: or when we feel like we do! Parenting isn't easy, and we have all been there! So if you feel like you're failing as a mom, read this!

Some days we make magic happen: we cuddle our kids, soothe their boo-boos, listen and encourage them. We smile at their silliness and we calmly respond to their demands. Some days you and me, we are simply best moms on earth.

But then there are days, when we fail completely and miserably in mothering . We raise our vice over every little thing, we get impatient in a blink of an eye, and our tired minds are begging us for a moment of peace. Days when it feels as if their voices, crying and whining, are taking over our minds. And we just want to be left alone.

There are days when I’m a bad mom, and I know there are the days when you feel like you’re one too.

And this is when I ask myself, why am I even a parenting writer? Should I really have more kids? And am I staining my daughters childhood with my anger and impatience? Will they remember these moments of my tense face and harsh voice? Will they remember how I made them cry?

There are days when I’m so full of guilt and self-doubt that I can hardy breathe. I imagine ruining their lives with my anger. Filling their soul with bitterness and anxiety.

Because aren’t mothers entirely responsible for their kids happiness? Shouldn’t we always be the oasis of calm acceptance and love? 

Well, no. We are supposed to be good enough. Responding to their needs most of the time. And when we show them anger, this is when they learn how to deal with it. This is when they learn that it’s ok to feel anger themselves, and express it ( in a socially acceptable way). This is when they learn – once we re-conciliate – that anger is a part of human spectrum of emotions, and that it is NOT a danger to the relationship. This is when they learn about limits.

And I tell myself that tomorrow will be a new day. That I do my best. That kids are forgetful and full of forgiveness. And that I’m a human who doesn’t need to love every moment of this life with kids, but who does love her kids like nothing else in the world.

So what if like me, you failed, and think you have really made a mistake?

  1. Say ‘I’m sorry”. Admitting to kids that we have made a mistake, that we had gotten impatient and angry, teaches them about forgiving and saying sorry when they have done wrong.
  2. Ask for help. It does take a village to raise happy kids, and you don’t have to do it all alone.
  3. Take a break. Sometimes a little bit of time to breathe and think in silence is all we need!
  4. Shake off that guilt: it’ll only cloud your thinking.
  5. Do something that you love doing, with your kids: it’ll help you re-connect with your kids and with the happy mother that you are!

So when I fail, I remind myself that it really takes a village to raise human beings, and that I can ask for help. And that my ager won’t harm my kids, as it’s delusional to think that a mother should never get angry. And I remind myself that my kids need me just the way I am.

Sometimes we all fail in motherhood, sometimes we don’t love it all. But I’m convinced that as long as we’re good enough, our kids will be just fine.

Strawberry rhubarb no churn ice cream

Strawberry rhubarb ice cream

My favourite season is finally here: fresh strawberries and rhubarb growing in my garden! So to celebrate it,  I came up with a perfect recipe for you: a no churn, 4 ingredient Strawberry Rhubarb Ice Cream- and one of the best ice cream I ever had to be honest! And with the rhubarb season being so short, this treat is really one of a kind!

If you follow my blog for awhile, then you know that last year I discovered no churn ice cream, and I tried several different recipes, but I think that with this one I have reached ice cream perfection!

strawberry rhubarb ice cream

All you need:

  • 1 Cup of rhubarb ( approximately 3 rhubarb sticks)
  • 1 cup of fresh strawberries
  • 1 can of condescended milk
  • 2 cups of whipped cream

Start with whipping your cream , and set it aside. Peel rhubarb, and then cut it in small pieces, put in a bowl, sprinkle with a teaspoon of sugar, and microwave for around 40 seconds. Then using a hand mixer, mix it with strawberries, until all is liquid. Now combine the strawberry-rhubarb mixture with condescended milk, and mix it well together. Then add slowly whipped cream, and mix it gently with a spoon until all is well mixed. Pour in to a glass dish, or a baking pan, and freeze for around 4 to 6 hours.

strawberry rhubarb ice cream

strawberry rhubarb ice cream

I usually make more than two dishes, and then we eat ice cream in our garden every day! These ice cream are so much better than the store-bought, and so much more economic too!

Just remember to take this ice cream out of the freezer around 5-to 10 minutes prior to serve, as it’ll be much easier to scoop.

strawberry rhubarb ice cream

strawberry rhubarb ice cream

strawberry rhubarb ice cream

And of course both daughters love this new season of fresh fruit and home made ice cream, and they already ask me to make more! Now, what new flavour should I make?

 

Why your kids will love Cars 3

why your kids will love the new Cars 3

I always wanted to raise girls who are equally girly and tomboyish, girls who’d love Princess as much as they’d love Cars. Girls who are strong, courageous and who would never believe that girls don’t do certain things. And I really think that it’s all about what we encourage our kids to play with and what books and stories we expose them to. So you can imagine my excitement when we got invited to see the new Disney Pixar Cars 3 premiere, since this is exactly the type of story that empowers all kids to believe in themselves and in their dreams!

Before we got to see the movie premiere we visited our local Canadian Tire to see the real Lightning McQueen on his road trip across Canada! Now that really got my girls all excited for the movie! There was the life-size Lightning McQueen to make photos with, crafts we got to take home with us and little racing cars to play with.

why your kids will love the new Cars 3

why your kids will love the new Cars 3

why your kids will love the new Cars 3

You can still catch him in Halifax, or just go and visit your local Canadian Tire store and get something for your little fan! There is everything you can imagine, from toys to bikes and water fun, everything featuring the Lightning McQueen and his friends! I was so impressed by the choice they had! And of course my girls wanted it all!

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And so when we got to see the movie premiere Lili and Rose just couldn’t contain their excitement! They loved the movie and laughed a ton. And I was really happy to see strong feminine characters that my daughters could relate with! Because if they can see feminine characters doing tough and amazing things, they can imagine and dream doing them too one day!

And then first thing in the morning, with their pjs still on, Lili decided to draw for Rose Lightning McQueen and his friend Cruz Ramirez. And they didn’t stop talking about the movie ever since!

why your kids will love the new Cars 3

This post was brought to you by Canadian Tire, all opinions remain my own.

10 reasons to travel to Lower Silesia

10 reasons to visit Lower Silesia in Poland and why it's the perfect family vacation destination in Europe

While travelling with young kids isn’t for the weak of heart, it’s so worth it! Even if they might sleep bad and whine half of the time, the bonding that happens while out of the everyday routine is priceless!

And I deeply believe that traveling with kids is like deposing coins in their own bank of happiness!

Why you should visit Lower Silesia in Poland10 reasons to visit Lower Silesia with kids

10 reasons to travel to Lower Silesia

So this year I decided to take my girls to come and visit my home city, where I was born and raised, Wroclaw, in the region of Lower Silesia, in Poland. I seen it with a fresh perspective, and have visited it as a tourist with kids would. And here are my top ten reasons why you too should travel to this beautiful region, with kids

1.Kid friendly restaurants and coffee shops: One of the first things that I noticed upon arrival was the quantity of restaurants and pretty coffee shops with dedicated kids corners and changing stations. My girls would sit and play while I had my meal in peace! Almost every place we visited had a little corner full of toys and books! This alone makes vacation with kids so much easier!

2. Old city centre- AKA the Rynek; it’s the place of all the restos, coffee places, ice cream and lovely streets full of pretty stores. In the summer, it’s often filled with music, giant bubbles that kids can play with, fountains on every corner and street artists. Cars aren’t allowed there, so kids can run safely and parents an really relax!

Lower Silesia

reasons to visit Lower Silesia

3. Easy transport: If you’d stay in a hotel in the city centre then you can either walk everywhere, or take the public transport. Wroclaw has lots of pretty tramways and new low buses, so even with a stroller you can easily get everywhere. It’s very affordable, and kids travel for free! And since the public transport is much more developed there then here in Montreal, we never waited longer then 5 minutes on a tram stop!

4. Amazing ice cream! Forget the Italian gelato, and try the all natural, organic Polish ice cream! You can find them all around the city, and my favourite where the sweet cream and the lemon with parsley. So good, I already miss them!

5.The gnome hunt around the city: Wroclaw is know for it’s gnomes, and you can find over 100 of them around the old city centre: some are alone, some in couples, some eat pierogi and some play on instruments! My daughters loved running around Rynek and looking for them!

6.Fairy tale like castles surrounding Wroclaw, in Lower Silesia, like the picturesque Ksiaz castle, located only 40 min drive outside of Wroclaw!

Visit Lower Silesia10 reasons to travel to Lower Silesia10 reasons to travel to Lower Silesia

reasons to visit Lower Silesia

7.Lots of parks and green spaces: everywhere we went, there was a fun park to stop by, and play.

8.Food truck festival and seasonal Markets: In the Rynek, during the winter and summer there’s a lovely market where you can buy authentic food and artisanal objects, and at the end of May we had a chance to visit a food truck market!

9. Great food that kids love: from all sorts of pierogi’s ( you need to try the strawberry pierogi!)  to polish gnocchi ( kluski) and soup served in bread, Polish food is particularly kid friendly! I was so happy to see my girls devouring every meal!

10. Activities for kids: We visited the impressive Zoo, and the huge park ( that looks like a forest) around the Hala Targowa ( don’t miss the huge fountain spectacle!). Unfortunately we didn’t have time to go on a boat ride around the city, nor to viit the Hydropoils museum, but for sure we’ll do this next time!

Visit Lower Silesia

Also, last but not the least, Wroclaw is the night life city of the region, with countless bars and clubs, and the food scene is particularly strong, with the big popularity of fresh and organic based meals. Plus, everyone speaks English! No wander it’s a weekend travel destination for many Europeans looking for a fun and colorful place to visit!

reasons to visit Lower Silesia

reasons to visit Lower Silesia

So, next time you’re planing a trip to Europe, don’t miss the Lower Silesia region of Poland, as I’m sure you’ll love it as much as I do! 

Clothes that little girls like

Clothes that girls like

Little girls want to move and dance and run, and they need to feel comfortable in their clothes! And the little girls that I know, they also love colours and little animals, sweet and fun patterns and of course, their favourite characters on their clothes. Believe me, I tried dressing my daughters in trendy grey, black and white clothes, but truth to be told, my older one, she loves colour. And my younger one, well all she wants, is to copy her sister!

So I was beyond exited when I got to visit the all new Giant Tiger Store in Saint-Jean-sur-Richelieu, and found such a great kid section, with only soft cotton, lots of sweet dresses and lots of Peppa Pig prints! It’s a brand new store, and I was so surprised to see such a vast choice in all the departments!

Now, of course I had to stop by the decor section, and I found lot’s of choices for decorating your outdoor space too – and got myself the prettiest outdoor rug ever!  Stay tuned, as I’ll share it on my Instagram once the weather will cooperate!

And of course, I used this occasion to do small grocery shopping too, as they have really everything that you need.

So now Lili want’s to only wear clothes with Peppa Pig on them and these super soft leggings, and I’m wearing my jeans dress from Lily Morgan on repeat, because it’s so comfy and diverse!

clothes that girls like

clothes that girls like
Les petites filles veulent bouger, danser, courir et ont besoin d’être confortable dans leurs vêtements. Et les petites filles que je connais, eh bien elles aiment les couleurs, les petits animaux, les jolis motifs amusants et bien sûr leurs personnages de télévision préférés. Croyez-moi, j’ai essayé d’habiller mes filles en vêtements tendance gris, noir ou blancs, mais sérieusement, ma plus vieille adore les couleurs. Et la plus jeune, eh bien elle veut toujours faire comme sa sœur!

Alors j’étais plus qu’excitée d’être invitée au nouveau Tigre Géant de St-Jean-sur-Richelieu, et j’y ai trouvé une superbe section pour enfant. Il y avait de jolie robes entièrement faites de coton et beaucoup de Peppa Pig! C’est un tout nouveau magasin et j’ai été très surprise de voir autant de choix dans tous les départements!

Évidemment, je ne pouvais pas passer à côté de la section décoration. J’y ai trouvé un tas de choix pour décorer vos espaces extérieurs – et je me suis choisi le plus joli tapis extérieur. (Restez à l’affut, il sera bientôt sur Instagram si la température coopère!)

Et bien sûr, j’ai profité de l’occasion pour faire mon épicerie puisqu’on y trouve tout ce qu’il faut pour ça aussi.

Depuis ce jour, Lili veut seulement porter ses vêtements Peppa Pig et ces leggings. Et moi, je porte ma robe de jeans à répétition parce que c’est tellement confortable et facile à agencer.

clothes that girls like

clothes that girls like

Though my biggest joy was shopping for little girls outfits ( I even started wishing I had another baby, as their baby selection is the cutest ever!) and founding so many things that my Lili will actually like- for such good prices.

Malgré tout, mon plus grand plaisir a définitivement été de magasiner des tenues pour petites filles (j’ai même souhaité avoir un autre nouveau-né tellement la sélection de vêtements pour bébé est cute!). Je suis vraiment contente d’avoir trouvé autant de choses que ma Lili va réellement aimer porter à un si bon prix.

clothes that girls like

Clothes that girls like

Disclosure: This post is brought to you by Giant Tiger, all opinions remain my own.

Ce post est fait en collaboration avec Tigre Géant, toutes les opinions sont exclusivement les miennes.

Nutella banana granola bars

nutella-banana granola bars

Every spring I wake up one day, and decide it’s enough: enough of artificial sugar, enough of comfort food on repeat, and enough of store-bought snacs! And this year is no different: last week, when the sun have finally appeared, an first tiny leaves started blooming, I realized it’s time to get back on track, and my first decision was to make these healthy and delicious, Nutella and banana granola bars! Now, I know what you must be thinking now: Nutella isn’t really healthy! Well, I’m just using a tiny bit of it, and believe me, it makes all the difference in the world!

And I just love having these on hand, they are really filling so they stop me from over smacking too!

Also, these granola bars are full of chia seeds and oats and have zero added sugar or fat! And of course, if you’d like them to be 100% sugar free, just skip the Nutella !

nutella-banana granola bars

All you need:

2 ripe bananas
1 cup oat meal
1/2 cup chia seeds
1/4 cup nutella
1 table spoon coca powder

Mix it all well together, and pour over a baking sheet covered with wax baking paper. Bake for around 15 minutes on 350 F, and let cool completely. Once cooled down, you can add a bit of Nutella “icing”on top!( I usually put a spoon in a small zip bag, cut off the top, and then decorate it as if it was a cake!

They are perfect to freeze for later, eat on the go, or wrap up as a little gift. Or even as an easy breakfasts for those busy mornings! And my kids kept asking for more!

nutella-banana granola bars

nutella banana granola bars

nutella banana granola bars

This recipe is for around 10 bars, so I suggest you making a double batch, you’ll thank me later! You can even add chocolate chips, nuts or dried cranberries! Enjoy!

Healthy and easy nutella and banana granola bars

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