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Why you need a ballerina skirt

Ballerina skirt

Since I became a mom I changed my outlook on a lot of things including my body. I understood how truly a amazing our bodied are, and how unimportant are the societies standards of beauty. It took me awhile, but I finally realized that instead of trying to fit my body in to a mold of cultural unrealistic standards, I just need to love it and embrace it as it is. And dress it with pleasure and creativity without thinking much of how it could be dressed once looking thinner or younger.

That’s why I decided to share more fashion ideas with you, since I believe we all need to see more real life woman having fun with fashion, embracing their bodies and dressing in whatever makes them happy! And less photoshopped unrealistic images showing us how we should look, am I right?!

So today I want to share with you my new must have- a tulle ballerina skirt! Seriously, its a wardrobe staple, comfortable, fluffy, embracing these mom-hips and a muffin top- and cute and flirty for any outing or date night.

Here I styled mine with a soft button down shirt in white and blue stripes and pretty nude block heel with a simple toe strap and just a little bit of sparkle! And a little pink crossover purse, because pink on pink is always a win!

And when I’m out brunching, I like to wear it with flat sandals and a simple white tee, or snickers and a black tee. Seriously, just any tee and this skirt, and I feel like I can conquer the world!

Ballerina skirt

Ballerina skirt

Next time when you’re out shopping, and you’re not quite sure what to buy for the evening out with friends, try a tulle skirt! You’ll love how comfortable and versatile it is!

Ballerina skirt

Double standards in parenting: moms versus dads.

Double standards in parenting, and how they affect us all!

Let’s talk about the elephant in the room, shall we? The double parenting standards, moms versus dads comparisons and the social expectations.

Lately, while talking with my mom friends, we often get back on the same topic; the struggle of working/caring for our kids and the distribution of responsibilities with our spouses. Now, before I start, I need to say that I feel that me and my hubby we have managed to create a balance that works for us. And the part of our balance is letting go. But, there are still the standards of society bugging me, and from time to time, our own unrealistic expectations.

So, let’s start by imagining this scenario: if I where a work-from-home dad, freelancer who’s working on various projects at a time, while also writing short stories on his own site, read by thousands of people every month, who has his kids at home from daycare twice a week. A dad who’s playing with them, baking with them, raising them bilingually, and making sure they can talk and read well in their minority language. If I were this dad who does most of the cooking and cleaning, because he works from home anyway, nobody would think or say, that I should try harder on keeping home clean and on doing the laundry more. Because the working and caring for kids father would get all the praises in the world and an etiquette of one amazing dad, who’s putting his career on hold for the family’s sake. He’d get a high-five from the society, for managing to earn money and being a very much involved dad and husband.

Now, when a mom works from home like me, earns money and is trying to pursue her dream, she’s most likely being judged from time to time, for not doing enough for her family. For choosing to check her emails over playing with her kids. For not keeping the house clean enough. For not cooking healthy home-made meals enough. For not ironing her husbands shirts. For having stains on her place-naps. For being egoistic in pursuing her dreams. But also, for not really working full-time, for not contributing to the household enough, for not being a good example of an independent women to her daughters by choosing to stay-at home, and so on.

Double standards in parenting

There’s more: when a dad works full-time then he’s earning money for his family, when a mom is working full-time, then she’s not willing to take care of her kids.

When a dad takes a kid to the playground, and he checks his emails for ten minutes during the half an hour time spent in the park, he’s an awesome dad playing with his kids. If a mom takes kids to the park for an hour, and is on her phone for 10 minutes, she’s a uninvolved mom.

If a dad cooks dinner and puts the kids to bed once a week, he’s a great dad. If a mother leaves kids once a week in the evening, she’s egoistic.

If a dad is left alone for a weekend with kids, people congratulate him for being amazing and keeping kids alive. If a mom stays with kids alone for a week, she’s just doing her job.

When a dad changes a baby diaper while at a restaurant, he’s a keeper and such an involved dad. When a mom changes diapers every day, she’s doing what’s expected of her.

When a mom cleans after dinner 5 days a week, and she’s too tired to clean the other 2, she’s a slacker. If a dad cleans after dinner twice a week, he’s really helping her at home.

They all sound a bit familiar don’t they? Through social media, traditional media, or our friends reactions we must have heard them all. And the sad part is that, the more we hear them, the more we tend to doubt ourselves and then the famous mom-guilt creeps in. 

Now, I think that whatever works for a couple is good. I do have a friend who does all the house work, and she’s totally fine with it, as her husband is the one working and doing a lot of overtime. But this is not the norm anymore.

And as we all know, it takes two people to bring a child to this world, so can we start seeing these two people as equally responsible for the child too? And if there are two adults living at home, then I say they are both equally responsible for their household too. Now, how they’ll make it work for them and how they’ll divide their task is their choice for sure.

But let’s just stop with 19th century expectations and double standards shall we?

And if one more person will congratulate me on my husband “helping me at home” I might just lose it. He’s just doing he’s part and I’m doing mine. 

 

Shopping for the right swimwear

Shopping for the right swimwear

Summer beach days are what I live for and what gives me energy for the ordinary days. Kids playing happily in the sand and splashing by the shore, the calming sound of waves and the sand in my toes are all that I dream about during the long winter months!

Nevertheless, I used to dread shopping for swimming suits. Even before I had kids I never felt comfortable in the bikini, and then post-kids I was dreading showing off my body even more! And now, even though I feel confident as a mom, rocking this mom-bod of mine, I feel that most brands offer either overly sexy for my taste swimming suits, or if I finally do like the design ( and I don’t feel like I’m naked wearing a swimming suit)  they are as expensive as a winter coat!

summer beach essentials

And the same thing goes for kids swim wear: I find them usually way too expensive and a lot of times a bit inappropriate for little girls. Because frankly, I want my daughters to look like kids that they are, and not like flirty teens in their swim wear!

But this summer I found a place where I got this super cute one-piece for me, for a fabulous price of 20$ ,the cutest beach hat and the sweetest two pieces for my girls: for 10$ each! Giant Tiger had so many great choices, including bikinis, tankinis, and all the accessories, all in great prices! All of the summer beach essentials that I was looking for: the swimming suits for both me and my girls, the sun hat, the sun screen and the beach toys: all was there and all very affordable.

summer beach essentials

So you can imagine how much fun it was to enjoy the beach while feeling comfortable and without thinking about spending a small fortune on swim wear! Not to mention Lili’s content of finding a swimming suit with her favourite Peppa Pig character!

And Rose, well she have chosen her swimming suit in all-the-colours, because when I asked her what is her favourite colour or character, she said it’s the rainbow!

 

Shopping for the right swimwear

summer beach essentials

summer beach essentials

summer beach essentials

So next time when you’ll feel overwhelmed with summer beach shopping, be it kids swim wear, a pretty tankini , beach toys or beach accessories, I really suggest you to go and visit your local Giant Tiger! You’ll be surprised with all that you can find there! 

Shopping for the right swimwear

Disclosure: This post was brought to you by Giant Tiger store, all opinions remain my own.

 

 

Best home made body scrubs

home made body scrubs

If there’s one thing that I do every year in the beginning of summer, in order to prepare myself for the beach season, is making home made body scrubs. Since I believe every body is a beach body, I think that all we really need in order to feel good at the beach is a positive body image. And maybe a pretty swimming suit and smooth skin! Or at least I know that my post-long-winter and after-cold-spring skin, loves body these scrubs! And because these home made body scrubs are made from natural ingredients, they  leave skin smooth, exfoliated and nourished!

And I’m sure that you already have all the ingredients in your pantry!

home made body scrubs

So here’s the fist body scrub that I love making: Coffee and Vanilla sugar scrub! If you’re a coffee lover like I am then you’ll love it too! Because self care and coffee go hand in hand right?

Here’s what you need:

  • 3 tablespoons of  coffee grounds
  • 1 cup of brown sugar
  • 1 tablespoon of coconut oil
  • 1 teaspoon of vanilla essence

Mix coffee grounds and brown sugar. Add coconut oil and in the end add vanilla essence. Mix it all together until really smooth. Pour in a small jar and use within 3 days ( best to keep it in the fridge until use) or make some more and offer as a gift!

home made body scrubs

home made body scrubs

home made body scrubs

Second body scrub that I love making is this Green Tea Body Scrub. Smells so good and exfoliates like nothing else!

All you need:

  • 1 cup of green tea
  • 1 cup of white sugar
  • 2 tablespoons of coconut oil

Mix it all together until smooth. You can keep it for one to two weeks. No need for refrigerating this one, as its more of a dry scrub.

home made body scrubs

home made body scrubs

home made body scrubs

home made body scrubs

So if you haven’t yet tried making your own body scrubs, and are still paying for the super expensive body scrubs, please give these a try! You’ll see how much softer your sin will feel not to mention the money you’ll save!

 

One trick that makes travel with kids easier

If you have been following me for a while then you know that I love travelling with my kids. Just this year we went together to Cuba, Poland and lastly on a week of a road trip around the Gaspe Peninsula in Quebec. And while I’m the first to admit that it’s not always easy, I really believe that traveling with kids is like deposing coins of happiness into their inner bank of memories! I think that nothing really can replace the bonding that happens while we travel as a family. And I’m convinced that nothing can grow their curiosity more than exploring new places and trying new foods. Not to mention how it can open their minds on new cultures just by seeing all the different ways in which people live around the world.

One trick that makes travel with kids easier

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But being honest, regardless of all the benefits of travel, the transfer part from place A to place B with kids is always the one that’s most complicated, and the one I used to dread the most. And what I really used to hate was caring big car seats with me all the time, like this last time in Poland! I had to carry car seats with me everywhere! It was so tiring.  And then there where times when we couldn’t go somewhere only because we didn’t have that big car seat with us. Not to mention the frustration of trying to install the car seat in the new car. I’m sure you’ve been there too!

One trick to make travel with ids easier

So you can only imagine my excitement when I discovered the Mifold booster seat at my local Canadian Tire! It’s small and foldable, fits in my purse or in my daughters little backpack, takes minutes to install, and makes travel and changing cars a breeze!

My five-year old Lili learned pretty quickly how to attach herself, and if you’ll look at her sitting next to her sister in the car, then you’ll see the real difference in space that this seat makes in the car!

how to travel easier with kids

One trick to make travel with kids easier

One trick to make travel with kids easier

easier travel

So on our recent trip to Gaspesie, Lili was in charge of her car seat, and she could easily switch from our car to her grandparents car, and travel with whomever she felt like that day!

And I just love this car seat for how it facilitated our travel! Not to mention that it’s safe, practical, and can be used by the kids of age four and up. So as you can imagine, I’m already planning more family adventures for us this summer!

One trick that makes travel with kids easier

One trick that makes travel with kids easier

Disclosure: this post was brought to you by Canadian Tire, all opinions remain my own.

No churn mango ice cream

mango no churn ice cream

Clearly I’m obsessed with home made ice cream, there’s no doubt about that! Summer days are just better with ice cream around. And there’s no doubt that these mango no churn ice cream are so much better then the store bought one!

I remember the very first time I tried mango ice cream in the local farmers market, and it’s particular sweet and tangy taste has enchanted me ever since. Now this simple home made version, is both sweet and creamy and tangy, all at the same time. And in my opinion so mush taster!

And the best part is that a toddler can make them, because they are just so easy to make! My  two daughters love making these home made ice cream with me, they do all the mashing and mixing and of course, all the tasting!

mango no churn ice cream

mango no churn ice cream

Ingredients needed:

  • 2 ripe mango’s
  • 1 lime
  • 1 cup of whipped cram
  • 1 cup of condensed milk

Cut mangoes in pieces and then mash them in to a smooth puree. Add a juice from one lime ( or more if you prefer your ice cream more sour) . Pour over the condensed milk, and mix together well. Add slowly whipped the cream. Now pour it all in to a dish and let it freeze over night. No need for covering it, unless yo want to store it in the freezer for weeks; though they never last over 3 days in my home!

mango no churn ice cream

So next time when you’re doing groceries and asking yourself if you should buy a package of that pricey Italian gelato, just skip it and go get some ripe fruits, whipping cream and condensed milk instead. You’ll see that whipping up ice cream is so much easier then it seems! And I’m sure your family will love these mango no churn ice cream it as much as mine does!

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